Behaving and achieving on a first date are more challenging issues for Men than for women.   The challenges of the modern world have many men stymied in terms of what works these days and what is not cool.   This is clearly the case for first dates and initial social encounters.  The result of all this social turmoil is that many men do not know what is appropriate or even smart. The upshot of all of this is that many men are not sure what is good and what no longer works or is acceptable.

Well, the good news is that in reality things have not changed as much as you might think.  Sincerity still rules the roost when it comes to initiating contact or pursuing an interest that you might have in someone.  So, the things that were of value and importance to your Mother are still true today.   Here they are:

Be sincere and say what you think in a way that reflects how you really feel.  Men oftentimes these days feel that they need to say something cool or flip in order to get the reaction that they are seeking or to seem above it all.  This is most valuable if you are trying to get ex back.

Pay attention to her.  Most women agree that the most annoying thing that a man can do is to be talking past her.  Some women actually believe that men do not even hear what they are saying.  This produces significant roadblocks to getting a second date.

Stay focused on her.  Again, one of the most frustrating things for women in general is watching a man as he looks at other women in the room – especially if he is your date.  This indifferent, cruising attitude might look cool in movies but it never produces anything but negative results with the woman beside you. 

Ask about her life.  While it has been repeated over and over again, most Men spend most of the valuable minutes on a date talking about themselves.   This is especially true on a first date when a large part of the goal is to find out about the other person.

Stay away from sex as a topic.  Men often feel that they need to get this out in front or that it is cool to share their ideas.  They feel that the topic is highly inappropriate on a first date.   If it is a reconnection to get ex back, then it can be disastrous.

Do not offer advice or come to conclusions about issues raised.  This does not mean avoiding speaking about how you feel but rather is directed at offering instant conclusions on weighty matters.

All of these things will work in your favor and they are indispensible if you are trying to get your ex back.