Bondage and BDSM Checklist
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Ever fancied entering the world of bondage, domination and BDSM but were afraid to because – well – where do you start? It is important for a dominant partner too know what their submissive enjoys, doesn’t enjoy, will do and will not do. But as everyone knows the world of BDSM, is so varied and potentially complex how do you pass on this information, likes and dislikes?
Some will say just tell each other, but let’s face it that can be a bit embarrassing, especially if it is a new mistress, or your relationship is fairly young.
Well we have created a list which, although not exhaustive, will give both partners the chance to express what they desire the most. Use the list as much or as little as you require, you do not need to enter something in every box. Remember the whole idea of BDSM is for both parties to enjoy themselves, so be honest and keep it Safe, Sane and Consensual.
How to use the list
The list is divided into three general areas of bondage activities – fetish activities, medical activities and sexual activities. Within each area the activities are listed with three boxes to be completed.
- Done it? Yes or no, no explanation needed here.
- Arousal (0-5). 0 – a turn off, 1 – no opinion (neither a turn off or a turn on), 2 – mild turn on, 3 – a turn on, 4 – major arousal, 5 – incredibly aroused.
- Consent (0-5). 0 – will never do it under any circumstances (also known as a hard limit), 1 – unwilling but will do it under stern orders if the dominant partner really wants it, 2 – unwilling but will do it under orders, 3 – willing but gets no major enjoyment from it, 4 – wants to do it, 5 – really wants to do it.
Fetish Activities
| Activity | Done it | Arousal | Consent | Activity | Done it | Arousal | Consent |
| Abrasion | Hair pulling | ||||||
| Acrophilia | Hand cuffs | ||||||
| Acrotomophilia | Harnessing: leather | ||||||
| Agalmatophilia | Harnessing: rope | ||||||
| Altocalciphilia | Headphone/earplugs | ||||||
| Ankle restraints | Hot oils (on genitals) | ||||||
| Arm sleeves | Hot waxing – genitals | ||||||
| Asphyxiation | Hot waxing – nipples | ||||||
| Barosmia | Intricate rope bondage | ||||||
| Bastinado | Labial clip | ||||||
| Beating full body heavy | Leather restraints | ||||||
| Beating full body medium | Manacles/shackles/irons | ||||||
| Beating, full body light | Mental Bondage | ||||||
| Biting | Mummification | ||||||
| Blindfold | Nipple clamps | ||||||
| Body bags | Nipple clamps w/chain | ||||||
| Body worship – legs | Nipple clothespins | ||||||
| Body worship – sexual | Nipple weights | ||||||
| Bondage outdoor setting | Nylon Rope | ||||||
| Bondage private setting | Padlocks | ||||||
| Bondage public setting | Pinching | ||||||
| Bondage semi-public | Plastic wrap | ||||||
| Boot worship | Punching | ||||||
| Boxing/closeting | Restraint duration: 0-1 hr | ||||||
| Breast bondage | Restraint duration: 1-3 hrs | ||||||
| Caging | Restraint duration: 3+ hrs | ||||||
| Chains | Restraint duration: multiple days | ||||||
| Chest Bondage | Restraint duration: overnight or full day | ||||||
| Cotton Rope | Restraints in public (under clothes) | ||||||
| Cross dressing | Scratching | ||||||
| Crucifixion | Sensory deprivation | ||||||
| Crucifixion | Silk scarves | ||||||
| Cupping, suction | Sleepsacks | ||||||
| Cutting, blood sports | Slings/swings | ||||||
| Dacryphilia | Spandex | ||||||
| Dendrophilia | Spanking belt/strap | ||||||
| Dirty sex, mud/dirt/oil | Spanking crop | ||||||
| Dirty words | Spanking flogger | ||||||
| Duct tape | Spanking hand | ||||||
| Elastrator | Spanking on all fours | ||||||
| Erotic dancing | Spanking over knees / bent over | ||||||
| Face sitting – clothed | Spanking paddle/hairbrush | ||||||
| Face sitting – naked | Stocks/pillory | ||||||
| Face slapping | Straightjackets | ||||||
| Fantasy abandonment | Suspension: horizontal | ||||||
| Fantasy gang rape | Suspension: inverted | ||||||
| Fantasy rape | Suspension: off floor | ||||||
| Feathers & fur | Suspension: partially touching floor | ||||||
| Faeces: eating | Suspension: upright | ||||||
| Faeces: playing with | Thumbcuffs | ||||||
| Faeces: scat | Use of ceiling/wall hooks | ||||||
| Fireplay | Velcro restraints | ||||||
| Fisting anal | Video taped scenes | ||||||
| Fisting vaginal | Voyeurism (watching others) | ||||||
| Food play | Whipping: breasts | ||||||
| Full Body Bondage | Whipping: bullwhip | ||||||
| Hoods – full head | Whipping: genitals | ||||||
| Gags | Whipping: knotted whip | ||||||
| Gang rape fantasy | Whipping: leather cat | ||||||
| Gates of hell | Whipping: limited part of body | ||||||
| Genital Bondage | Whipping: single lash | ||||||
| Genital torture | Whipping: switch | ||||||
| Genital weights | Whipping: tawse | ||||||
| Golden showers | Wrestling |
Sexual Activities
| Activity | Done it | Arousal | Consent | Activity | Done it | Arousal | Consent |
| Butt plugs | Sex – handjob | ||||||
| Dildo – anal | Sex – oral giving | ||||||
| Dildo – oral | Sex – oral receiving | ||||||
| Dildo – vaginal | Sex – thighs | ||||||
| Double penetration (dildo) | Sex – vaginal | ||||||
| Double penetration (multiple partners) | Sexual deprivation (long term) | ||||||
| Female ejaculation | Sexual deprivation (short term) | ||||||
| Pearl necklaces | Swapping (one other couple) | ||||||
| Sex – anal | Swallow own juices | ||||||
| Sex – armpits | Threesome | ||||||
| Sex – ass cheeks | Triple penetration (dildo) | ||||||
| Sex – breasts | Triple penetration (multiple partners) | ||||||
| Sex – fingers | Vibrators – anal | ||||||
| Sex – group | Vibrators – vaginal |
Medical Activities
| Activity | Done it | Arousal | Consent | Activity | Done it | Arousal | Consent |
| Catheterization | Nasogastric tube | ||||||
| Douching | Nasophilia | ||||||
| Enemas | Needles | ||||||
| Injections | Speculums – anal | ||||||
| Medical exams, physical | Speculums – vaginal | ||||||
| Medical scene: other | Urethal sounds |
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